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My kids are too shy.
How do involve them in socializing?

Some considered “shy” children are susceptible, meaning very aware of and strongly affected by their environment. Others are introverted, meaning that they need time away from other people to renew their energy. And the rest of us who think we’re “shy” usually means that we feel awkward or anxious in social situations.

We all want our children to make friends easily, feel comfortable asking school questions, and speak up for themselves. The good news is that most kids can learn to manage social anxiety to connect happily with others, enter new groups, and speak up for themselves. Some just need a little extra support.

1. Nurture your child by noticing his/her needs and responding to them

Responsive parenting helps sensitive kids learn to calm themselves and manage their reactions. That allows their heightened sensitivity to become an asset because it makes them more aware of their peers’ needs and better at negotiating group situations.

2. Empathize with your child’s worries and avoid shaming him/her

Acknowledging what kids feel, without negative judgment, helps them to feel good about themself. Giving them the impression that there is something wrong with them will make them feel worse about themself, therefore, more insecure. Empathizing with your child will also help develop empathy, enhancing his social skills, and helping him connect with others.

3. Invite your kids to dance classes

It can improve your child’s social skills. Dance classes encourage kids to interact with other children their own age. Through these interactions, your child may develop new and lasting friendships. Choreography often requires teamwork, patience, and partnership. Kids will learn how to move in a group and synchronize. They will also learn the value of collaboration to achieve goals. With these skills, kids will improve their socialization. If your child is shy, dance is a beneficial way of building trust and openness. This social activity can help kids break out of their shells, develop their self-esteem, and improve their communication skills.

4. Don’t label your child as shy

Instead, acknowledge his worries and point out that he can overcome his fears, remind him of his own situation about previous positive experiences.